Friday, April 1, 2016

26 Wrong Motives For Marriage


1. Sexual pressure: marrying because you don’t what to fornicate. So what happens after 3 months of constant sex? Sex dey tire person o!
2. Because you are of age: Age is not a qualifier for marriage, but maturity.
3. Because your mates are getting married: We don’t all have the same timing and destiny.
4. To feel among: To belong to a class:
5. To make your parents happy: “Hmmn Bayo, I need grand-children o”
6. To get back at an EX or someone: Someone dumped or insulted you, so you marry to revenge. I.e So you can send your EX your wedding Invite.
7. To make your friends happy: Your friend’s opinion
8. To prove a point: Someone said you can’t marry, so you marry to prove them wrong.
9. To earn respect: If you aren’t respected while single, marriage won’t’ change it. i.e matting to be called madam
10. As part of preparation to travel abroad: You are relocating or got a job abroad and you want to quickly marry before going abroad.
11. Marrying for green card: Visa marriages.
12. To bear children: This shouldn’t be a reason to marry. If you want children, go and adopt.
13. To position yourself economically, politically or ministerially: Marrying because of what you can gain through the marriage. E.g contract from political in-laws.
14. To improve financial standing: So your spouse can take care of you.
15. For membership of a cub or association: “You can’t join our club unless you are married”. So you got married just to join.
16. To compensate someone for a king gesture/ you hurt them: Because he helped your family during a challenging period doesn’t mean you must marry him. Or because she is pregnant for you.
17. Marrying out of sympathy: She is disadvantaged or challenged, so you took pity on her and married her? One day you might regret and will tell her… “I pitied you that is why I married you o”
18. Marrying simply because you both have a favourable genotype: You ended your engagement because of Genotype issues, so you jump into marriage with the next available person with AA.
19. Because he/she is nice: niceness shouldn’t be a paramount reason. “Prov 31:30; Favour is deceitful”. (KJV)
20. Because of beauty/handsomeness: Beautiful will fade, 6- pack will change to 1-pack.lol “Prov 31:30;and beauty is vain”.(KJV)
21. To be complete: Backstreet boys sang “incomplete”, but TRUE fulfilment and completeness comes from God not marriage “Col 2:10;And ye are complete in him” (KJV)
22. The person’s intelligence: Because she is a doctor or he is smart. These can be one of many reasons, but not the main.
23. Because he/she is from you tribe: Because he/she is Hausa, Ibo, Yoruba etc
24. Because she is a virgin: Because she isn’t a virgin doesn’t make her promiscuious.
25. Because he/she is spiritual or active in church: Church activity doesn’t guarantee marital bliss.
26. Because you don’t want to be alone: You can be alone, but not lonely.

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